What I Care About

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We never think it will happen to us.  When we fall in love, we figure there may be rocky stretches, but we don’t plan on the really hard times, when the pain of love gone wrong throws us off balance, threatens our self-esteem, and destroys our peace of mind.  As we grapple through the dark tunnel of despair, we often ask ourselves, why, if we once loved each other so deeply, must we hurt each other so much? What can we do to feel better again? How can we find a loving way through the darkness?

There is often truth in the old saying, “Rejection is God’s protection,” and what we think is a disaster can turn out to be one of life’s greatest gifts.  It is easy to say that but how do we actually travel through our tortured feelings of anger, betrayal, depression, jealousy, or obsession to find peace and calm?  How do we use unimaginable sorrow to strengthen us and focus our energies on a better tomorrow? How can we go through the hard times and remain loving to our partners and ourselves?

This is devoted to helping you express your deepest, darkest feelings about the person you are meant to love.  Putting our angry thoughts into words can be difficult for those of us who habitually deny our true feelings. Often we try to suppress our emotions.  We sedate ourselves with antidepressants and gorge ourselves with food, literally swallowing our anger. we drown our sorrows, exercise obsessively, or find escape in drugs, affairs, or just working too hard – anything to numb the pain.

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There is a far better way to bring love and peace back into your life.  This time, take a moment to retreat to a quiet place. Cry. Rage. Scream.  Then write or draw your feelings in your journal, using crayons or magic markers to help you express your hurt or frustration.  Don’t hold back. This is a safe place to be honest with yourself. As you write, surrender to the wisdom inside you, the limitless, eternal loving energy that is there to help you flow through the heavy emotions.

Breathe, meditate, and find counselors or spiritual mentors to help you on the journey.  Cultivate new friends, volunteer, exercise, drink lots of water, and nourish your body, your mind, and your spirit.  You will get through this, and one day you will look back and understand what really happened and why, but for now there is no way out but through.  Although your partner may be angry, do your best not to retaliate. Either find a way to heal the relationship or leave it. Forgive and move on. No matter what, acknowledge the humanity of the other person and seek the highest, most loving solution for both of you.  Throughout this period, always remember “this too shall pass” and strive to look forward to the day that you will emerge from the tunnel, blinking in the light.

Kathy’s Suggestions

In the heart of life - Kathy Eldon
In the Heart of Life: A Memoir

by Kathy Eldon

In 1997, Kathy Eldon moved with her husband and two children from England to Kenya, where she found freedom as she had never known it before and was ready to push back from her old, restrictive life.  Diving into this tumultuous new world as a journalist and writer, she embraced the energy and creativity of Kenyans, both black and white. But her world collapsed when her twenty-two-year-old son, Dan – an artist and photojournalist on assignment for Reuters – was stoned to death by an angry mob in Somalia, killed by the very people he was trying to help.  Kathy’s journey through this tragic loss was deeply spiritual as she discovered that, in many ways, Dan was still ever – present in her life. This gripping international saga includes a passionate love, a dangerous coup in Kenya, and a compelling glimpse into a woman on the brink of self-discovery. After her son’s murder, Kathy began to publish his art, which gained popularity worldwide and – together with her daughter, Amy – launched a global foundation celebrating Dan’s work as a creative activist.  Throughout Kathy’s exploration of profound tragedy, we find the secrets to not only surviving, but being truly, gloriously alive.

Love Catcher - Kathy Eldon
Love Catcher: Inviting Love Into Your Life

by Chronicle Books LLC Staff, Kathy Eldon and Amy Eldon

This journal is designed to help you examine the way you approach love and romantic relationships.  Guided prompts discuss topics ranging from characteristics your past partners have shared, to dreams you have for you and your partner.

Soul Catcher - Kathy Eldon
Soul Catcher: A Journal to Help You Become Who You Really Are

by Kathy Eldon & Amy Eldon, Illustrations by Michelle Barnes

Soul Catcher takes you on a self-guided journey along a spiritual path forged from the realization of your own dreams and wishes, and the utilization of the wisdom of your own inner voice.  This beautiful journal will help you find ways to break through the barriers that stand in your way and offer support as you shape and define your true values and goals so you can live life to its fullest.

Angel Catcher - Kathy Eldon
Angel Catcher: A Journal of Loss and Remembrance

by Kathy Eldon & Amy Eldon Turteltaub

Over the past decade, this classic work has helped thousands find meaningful ways to overcome the despair of losing a loved one.  Now, Angel Catcher has been revised and updated to convey its powerful message of hope to a new audience.  Featuring brand new illustrations and a fresh updated look, the tasteful pages of this journal guide the user through the process of mourning and onward to a lasting sense of peace in the face of loss.

Dan Eldon - The Art of life
Dan Eldon: The Art of Life

by Jennifer New & Kathy Eldon

Only 22 when he lost his life on assignment in Somalia, photojournalist Dan Eldon left behind much more than the journals that became the basis for Chronicle’s best-seller The Journey is the Destination.  He left a lifetime of adventures that continue to inspire.  Raised in Kenya, he took numerous expeditions across Africa that helped him to understand and love the continent.  Through his safaris and benevolent crusades – and with interludes of study and work in the US and London, and trips around the world – he crafted a philosophy of curiosity, creativity, adventure and charity.  Intensely visual, like the life it describes, Dan Eldon: The Art of Life is more than a biography.  It is an exploration of one man’s will to take in everything life has to offer; an example of a life lived for and art experienced as life.”

Safari as a Way of Life

by Jennifer New

Photojournalist Dan Eldon left behind much more than the astonishing illustrated journals that would form The Journey is the Destination when he lost his life at age twenty-two while on assignment in Somalia.  He also bequeathed a life story that has inspired students, teachers, artists and creative activists – as well as a forthcoming film, an apparel line and the Spring 2011 collection from Tom’s Shoes.  Raised in Kenya, Dan grew up with a unique outlook on life. Through adventurous safaris and benevolent crusades around the world, he crafted a philosophy of curiosity, creativity and charity. This unique visual biography showcases previously unpublished artwork from Dan’s acclaimed journals, letters and snapshots that take readers on a journey through Dan’s life and beyond, exploring the impact made by this remarkable artist on everyone who has encountered his story.

The Journey is the Destination: The Journals of Dan Eldon

by Dan Eldon & Kathy Eldon

The best-selling and critically acclaimed book The Journey is the Destination features a selection of over 200 pages from the journals of photojournalist Dan Eldon.  It is a legacy of a young artist killed just as his creative powers were beginning to be recognized by himself and others.  Already an international inspiration for a documentary, feature film, a clothing line, and the Spring 2011 collection of Tom’s Shoes.  Dan’s life sets an admirable example of how to be young, human and alive and will continue to inspire future generations as it has for the past decade.

Eating Out in Kenya: Kathy Eldon’s Guide to 300 Hotels, Restaurants, Snack Bars, Take Away Cafes

by Kathy Eldon

Kitchens and Cooking

by Mike Eldon & Kathy Eldon

Specialities of the House from Kenya’s Finest Restaurants

by Kathy Eldon

Epicurean Delights: Tastes of Kenya

by Kathy Eldon & Eamon Mullan

Safari as a way of life:

Safari as a way of life: Amy Eldon Turteltaub & Kathy Eldon